"If you give in to intimidation, you will not get less intimidation, you will get more intimidation."-- Flemming Rose, the editor of Jyllands-Posten - the Danish newspaper that ran the notorious "Muhammad" cartoons - to the San Francisco Chronicle's Debra J. Saunders
This post prompted me to share this blogsite. Goofy name but he seems to be a lone voice in imparting the proper way to address the whole bully/victom dynamic.
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I work with these issues everyday as a counselor, but article shows that the same issues impact nations and newspapers and categories of people. ( The Nazis saw Jews as mean exploitive bullies. ) I reread my last post and I hate the fact that I used the word 'proper'. There is no 'proper' way to deal with these situations, but the refusal to be intimidated into reacting like a victim, or to the accusation that you are a bully, is a good guideline. Within that parameter - anything goes if you can live with the consequences. I think it fits with 'the macho response', though a feminine response, assuming it comes from a place of freedom inside you, just as often hits the mark - and levels shit out so people can get busy living and not feel sorry for themselves.
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