That's easy - it's the NewAge - same as with gays:
1) If no one's ever seriously kicked your ass before, you never learn personal limits and boundaries.
2) But, since NewAge society has erected rules for pussies (no pun intended) they ensure no one ever will kick your asses.
3) So, since there'll be no comeuppance, we get bitches instead.
A problem society could fix, in a heartbeat, if we wanted to,...
And this is why I have always stood back and let my kids get themselves into a few dustups -- people are usually shocked by this, but it's a good lesson to learn at an early age. Tends to make them less prone to being on the giving or receiving end.
ReplyDeleteI can well remember as a small child getting the question: "well, did you ask for it? yes? then I guess you kinda got what you deserved". By the same token if somebody (usually a cousin) bullied me and I stood up for myself they got the same question back (because on the flip side, you were encouraged to stick up for yourself -- if you can't fight stronger, and someone is determined to pick on you, fight smarter and meaner and maybe they'll get the hint to not pick on you anymore).
Children need to learn these things (an advantage of rural life: horse, sheep, cow, or a pig doesn't care if you are an XX or an XY, they will, if provoked, mess you up; they will, if they think they can, walk all over you, so learn the happy balance and you'll likely have no problems).
Unfortunately, that doesn't apply these days, because of these new rules. (brought home just this week thanks to an incident at school, involving my kid, a bully, and the new rules of engagement -- my kid got in trouble...but she hopefully got her licks in enough prior; I have to add that the teachers were just shocked, shocked!...she's always so sweet and polite...well duh, being polite isn't the same as being a wimp who lets people push her down).
PW
...and I had the same thing with my son back in the day -- that girl learned pretty quick that it wasn't a good idea to start bullying somebody, and sending your "boyfriend" after him may not work either.
ReplyDeleteIt was good for both of them -- she got damn sweet after winding up with that unicorn lump, and the "boyfriend" learned a valuable lesson in not backing up a bully, and that sometimes the little guy can beat you (and I got to hear from the teachers: we just can't believe he'd do such a thing; he's always so peaceful! well, yeah, but he doesn't have to be peaceful if somebody is coming up and trying to kick him in the slats or sending their big ass "boyfriend" after him once he knocks them out).
PW
*and why an 11 yo. needs a "steady boyfriend/girlfriend" is beyond me, but that's a whole other story