Doesn’t She Look All Cuddly And Stuff?

Blame it on the boyfriend.

The lawyer for Kelly Killoren Bensimon - one of "The Real Housewives of New York City" - says her jilted beau was responsible for the lovers' quarrel that landed the reality star in court.

"I can't believe the guy went to the police," defense attorney Ed Hayes said Tuesday. "It is very, very mean-spirited. It's not like she's in his apartment. He's in her apartment."

Hayes said there was a break-up between Bensimon and Nicholas Stefanov, followed by a scuffle in her Manhattan apartment when he refused to leave.

"It's the reverse of a jilted girlfriend," Hayes said after a brief court appearance. "He's a rejected boyfriend."

While prosecutors asked for an extension of an order of protection for Stefanov, Hayes charged the ex-boyfriend was sending Bensimon threatening e-mails.

"I'm going to make your life misery," read one of the missives cited by Hayes.

Bensimon, 40, the ex-wife of famous fashion photographer Giles Bensimon, was dressed in black from head to toe for her courtroom appearance. The case was put off until June 8.

The mother of two girls was accused of punching 30-year-old Stefanov in the face, causing lacerations below the left eye and "substantial pain," according to a complaint he filed with police.

(Actual photo)

"I'm devastated my girls and I have to go through something like this," said Bensimon, sporting a gold watch and diamond stud earrings. "They don't need to be exposed to something like this."

Bensimon, a model and editor, was confident the case would be resolved in her favor. "The only time I'll ever be here again is for jury duty," she said.

She could face up to a year behind bars if convicted. - NYDaily Mail

Look at the above pictures. Note the masculinity, the hard-ass look in the eyes that says “it’s my way, period. You will be obedient and compliant or you will pay. I will dump you anytime I want, then bring you back anytime I want”.

You can almost feel the disdain and arrogance leaping off the page.

And then there’s him. Deer in the headlights, obedient, compliant, confused and waaaaay needy.

An excerpt from People magazine:

Though there are reports that the two are engaged, a source close to Bensimon says that's not the case. "[Stefanov] is claiming that they were engaged, which is delusional. They have been on-and-off for three to three-and-a-half years, and during that time they were never exclusive. She was always dating other people."

Really now, how can two people disagree as to whether or not they are or were engaged?

“She was always dating other people,”

No doubt this is the first time Nicholas has been told this. Maybe he now understands the confusing, sudden anger and fights that seem to come out of nowhere, the off the wall break-ups.

You see, Nicholas, every time some swinging dick looked her way, she dumped your sorry ass, and when her new deal predictably blew up she brought you back. It’s the way of the malignant narcissist. And while there is a great deal of latitude in the behavior of narcissists, they all use the same playbook.

Dead Boy Walking - You were, and probably still are, the obedient boy-servant that she uses in between attempts to get what she can’t have. You were nothing more than a tampon. When she needs one, she needs one, when she doesn’t they don’t exist.

Walk like a man, asshole. Get past the mentality of a lucky seventh grader who gets to bang the dirty, nasty teacher.

She has a lot of damage to do before she’s done, leave it for some other sap.