I wish I had access to whatever drugs Ann Althouse took in her youth - they had to be mind-blowing:
Maybe Boehner is the woman endlessly imploring her man to talk about their relationship, and Reid is the taciturn man who's waiting for her to give up and do what the junior partner in a marriage is supposed to do: what he says.
Alternatively, Boehner is the man who relentlessly pursues his ex-girlfriend asking only for a chance to talk to her, and the woman — Reid — curtly informs him that there's nothing to talk about.
We instinctively turn away.
Alternatively, Boehner is the man who relentlessly pursues his ex-girlfriend asking only for a chance to talk to her, and the woman — Reid — curtly informs him that there's nothing to talk about.
We instinctively turn away.
Well, she does anyway, because - as I've often said - Miss I Shut Off Comments To Concentrate On My Writing doesn't care if what she says is wrong, as long as the woman "wins".
Notice two things:
Notice two things:
1) Reid has the Constitution on his side, and Ann's a law professor, but our little Guide To Life is portrayed as male oppression - doing "what he says." And only "the junior partner in a marriage" does that.
2) In Ann's feminist outlook, naturally, even if the woman isn't oppressed by the man, she's ending the relationship to get her way - again, our little Guide To Life plays no role in the law professor's reasoning. It's utterly irrelevant. She simply doesn't want to give in and it's been made very clear she doesn't have to - everyone and everything else be damned.
2) In Ann's feminist outlook, naturally, even if the woman isn't oppressed by the man, she's ending the relationship to get her way - again, our little Guide To Life plays no role in the law professor's reasoning. It's utterly irrelevant. She simply doesn't want to give in and it's been made very clear she doesn't have to - everyone and everything else be damned.
"Wonder why they call you 'Bitch'?"
In both scenarios, using magical thinking, there's no basis for wrong or right (the Constitution, Wedding vows, whatever) involved in the woman's decision making. She'll never be wrong. She'll never be right, either - she just destroys everything, to validate claiming she was wronged.
And that is because people have usually turned away. ("They came for the Communists,...") I know - shouldn't go there - but I'm very familiar with people who have utilized the situation and feelings Ann's describing.
But, then, so are quite a few divorcees,...
I was more of the mind that Boehner's cry of "this is not a game!" would be more illustrative of what goes on in the break up of a marriage (at least among real people, who get really hurt).
ReplyDeleteAnd that one could argue that Boehner in that moment was perhaps addressing the twits on both sides, who insist on "winning" at the expense of everything else.
So perhaps it's rather like the child, who sees what's happening and is essentially powerless to stop it -- and of course, will get a heavy dose of the blame. At the very least, it will not be the game players, or at least the ringleaders of this game, who will pay the price.
[true story: one of the most vicious things I ever witnessed was a ten year old being told by their divorcee parent, this time the man, that it was "all their fault", the child's fault that said parent had had to stay in a broken marriage and therefore ruining his quest for great things and happiness (he truly believed that providence had marked him out for great things -- I'm not joking, he actually stated that to people, still believes it to some degree, I've heard it with my own ears at parties), which he was positive he deserved and would get...if only that awful marriage and meddling kids hadn't ruined it for him,taken him from his proper destiny/path in life...pretty sick, huh? and of course the kid in question not only was hurt by this but also scarred by it, because such vicious things once committed, can never be undone and can only be survived...of cours, such instances make me truly wish for a hell, but I digress]
PW
Did you have no clue at all that you were marrying a New Age murderer when you took whatever wedding vows (religious?) you took to marry a New Age murderer? And is there no way you can now finally divorce yourself from that New Age murderer you married? She just, what, permanently, spiritually, lives within you? Weird.
ReplyDeleteMeade,
ReplyDeleteShe just, what, permanently, spiritually, lives within you? Weird.
Weird? I hate to break it to you, but that's what marriage IS.
You're on your second one - you should know these things (or aren't you admitting that's really just your girlfriend?)
Weird.
PW,
ReplyDelete"Pretty sick, huh? "
Nah, completely understandable. I mean, how can you "reach your full potential" with the kid holding you back, asking why the sky's blue, and whatnot?
You can't cure cancer with the damned thing, sitting there, just staring at you.
And then, of course, there's the French.
Check out how many times they have to remind us who "married" who, and how many times they each performed the charade.
But the best is that opening image - it's as beautiful as they are - all those women, unceremoniously dumping their husbands, trying to grab the brass ring.
I worship at their feet,...
I'm afraid that it's still a bit incomprehensible to me.
ReplyDeleteOn first hearing this "God has great plans for me", the snap response was "you're joking, right?". Sadly, said person was completely serious. Although this could be a good segue into answering why such things take place -- most people, upon hearing such things, do not believe it is possible for others to seriously believe this sort of thing. Unfortunately, they probably should take it seriously, for their own benefit as well as others (as well as realizing that there will be others more than happy to buy in and cater to the delusion in order to snap up some brass ring! and that they are more than happy to do some trampling themselves in order to achieve it).
What can I say? No divine entity has ever whispered such promises in my ear. And I sit here, typing this, with a small child asking me endless questions and wanting to show me endless pencil drawings, which admittedly it would be nice if she'd take a break for at least a few minutes...knowing full well that I am not going to find a cure for the world's problems, or even cancer, nor ever own a ring of power. Then again, there was no whispered guarantee that I would have conquered the world/received the keys to some kingdom anyway, so nothing to get my panties in a twist over (although warming up some raviolis can buy you enough time to finish a blog post -- fyi).
PW
And come on Meade, even if you are on your second marriage, you have to admit that there is always a part that harkens back to your first wife, and the fact that you loved that person, you loved them very much...and spiritual essences or not, that isn't something which just goes away with the snap of the fingers and the tilt of a head.
ReplyDeleteA divorce, a breakup, an ending, whatever the circumstances, changes things -- even if you remarry; marriages stick with you forever -- even when they aren't there anymore.
At least, that has always been my perception. I could be wrong.
PW
PW, "a part that harkens back to your first wife"?
ReplyDeleteFive years after finding out she was a New Age cultist and a murderer? No. That's just indulging oneself in infantile emotionalism.
Look - take a full year after the final divorce decree to let go of the lingering emotions. After that, it's time to let the past go and set yourself free. Obsessively brooding, transferring and fixating on other individuals - Hillary, Althouse, Reynolds... - is a loser's game. It's choosing to be mentally enslaved. Proclaim your emancipation from emotional slavery. Be a true conservative by protecting and defending freedom - beginning with your own. Free from ulcers and bulging disks. Free from heart attacks (and afibrillators). Free from racial fixations and the Cult of Machismo and the culture of anger and resentment. See what I'm saying? Chris Christie will not save you from enslavement anymore than will Barack Obama or Mitt Romney, George W., Rand Paul, or Ted Cruz. Why let any of them live in your head rent-free? That is insanity.
Another thing I find weird, PW, is the way you continually feed those addictions in Crack. What's in for you?
I wasn't talking about Crack's wife; I was speaking to you.
ReplyDeleteBy the way, please spare me the "free yourself" crap -- nobody is ever truly free. Not until you're dead (and if you believe in an afterlife, not even then). If I want to hear guru talk about becoming a true conservative I'll join an ashram and shave my head (and it's something I really don't care if I am or not -- I don't need a true conservative badge or a cookie, cookie).
In a sense there sweet cheeks, you're asking somebody to not be free to feel angry -- and one thing I've learned: the "angry" folks are usually not the ones you have to watch out for, it's the "inner peace" types that are usually a hornet's nest on the inside (seems they feel the need to compensate, or something). Set your mind free babycakes! LOL!
As for what I get out of it -- I happen to like this blog. I find the guy who runs it to really not be all that angry -- sometimes pissed off, yes, but that's understandable. At least he gets pissed off over sensible things and isn't afraid to show it. Plus the music is pretty good and appeals to my rather eclectic tastes.
So no, I was directing that comment about the first wife thing at you -- you mean to tell me you don't ever have moments where you don't think back to your first wife? Doesn't affect you at all in your now, huh?
PW
As for Chris Christie -- verdict is still out in my camp on him, we'll see.
ReplyDeleteHowever, on one very important score: Crack is right. When it comes to relating to the voter, Christie appears to be the only one of the GOP that can do that in any fashion winnable -- not just Tea Partiers, or libertarians, or true conservatives, or whoever -- the President has to be seen as relating to everyone, even if they don't particularly care for him...did I mention some of my liberal friends actually now regret being so nasty towards W? Yeah, relating to people counts...which is one of the reasons (among many) why Obama has been a disaster. However, disaster that he is, Obama is probably a hell of a lot saner than what the Dems have coming down the pike (and possibly what the GOP has too if they go the route they are going). I happen to love America and Americans, and I definitely don't want to see Hillary in charge of it (and I'm not so sure Rand or Cruz would be any good either, not that they'd stand a chance if that's who the GOP picks to run).
Like I said, we'll see, but he's got a point -- and it's worth considering (because I really do not want to consider a Hillary presidency...guess that makes me a gender traitor! oh well).
PW
Three unresolved murders and the best the law professor's "husband" can offer is hippy bullshit about freeing oneself from responsibility. (I swear, you guys destroyed this country with your idiocy.) I'll be divorced when the issues surrounding my marriage are resolved.
ReplyDeleteIf Ann gets sucked into cultism ("if" - heh) you be sure to walk away clean, Meade old man. To me that's not even a consideration. Dying, knowing how you place in all this to yourself for real, so you're not slobbering like a baby for Mamma or Jesus, is how you avoid "Hell" Meade. I've seen too many people die to not take it seriously. Most are not Steve Jobs saying "Oh wow". And I'm telling you, your ethics are that of a slug, and I won't join you in them. I'll die like my Dad, glad to be done with it, did my best.
You asked me once about regrets and when I said no, you tripped. That's the point, Meade. My WIFE has fucked up. I'm just caught in it. My ignoring the NewAge isn't going to take it out of the TV shows, the hospitals, horse training (wink) or anywhere else I'm constantly reminded of it's matrix and my wife. So it must be destroyed. Plus it's fun. I just wrote of snapping a guy on chiropractic a few days ago. That was cooler than anything Ann's EVER wrote about.
And could my ulcer and disc problems in rapid succession possibly be because I was forced into taking care of a friend/roommate/landlord who fell, developed a mental problem, and had to get into long-term care, with his family elsewhere - and then I moved all my musical equipment, alone, across the country to record my music and finally, finally, finally, get my life (happiness) back on track - and NOT because anybody's living in my head, hmmm?
Come on, Meade, Ann just says stupid shit. I can assume, since now I have a bipolar guy taking care of ME (he's in the next room repeatedly saying "motherfucker") and, if I get another ulcer, you'll think, if I said Ann made a silly comment at the same time, it was because of my wife, right?
And finally, Meade, I know it's hard for hippies to understand, but there was a world before you came along. Blacks were on the march and everything - without you. We wanted a world your hippie nonsense has turned into a cesspool. "Love the one you're with" right? Fuck you. It won't sound any more like reality when you're on your 1st, 2nd, 3rd, or 4th "wife". That's not love.
Re-read your Shakespeare. There's no connection between your values and the Bard's reflection of humanity. It is YOU who are at war - that's why you and Ann had to go on a mountain alone to perform the charade - you actually thought that'd change something, like a couple of meditators claiming to stop war. Your shock at my views are the funniest part - but, but, WE DID IT OURSELVES! It's hilarious.
Every example you live by, throughout history, has been proven WRONG. People do actually love and don't treat those they love as used tissues. There is right and wrong, whether justice is delayed or not. I could go on but the point is, your pretending the world is different is merely based on the Baby Boom's superior numbers and, as you die off, your influence will as well. And nothing will have changed. Because reality will see to it.
I grew up in South Central, I know how this works at the life-and-death level.
And, from what I can tell, it even applies in FantasyLand.