"I honestly don't think women spend much time thinking about how they treat their husbands.
Women don't seem to realize that the more you complain about your husband, the more fuel it adds to the fire. In other words, it doesn't make you want to go home and be more loving toward your husband.
...Complaining reinforces the idea that you are stuck and you don't know what to do, which leads to a sense of helplessness. It might feel good at the moment to complain to a friend, but it is disrespectful to the husband who isn't there to tell his side of the story. Bottom line, it isn't productive to the relationship."
-- Julie Baumgardner, saying something that sounds awful familiar, for The Washington Times.