"The whole Christian, 12-step mentality has permeated our culture, and the emphasis on forgiveness is part of that,...For many,...forgiveness is a double-whammy: First someone screws you, and then it's your fault you don't want to embrace them in heaven. I'm not against forgiveness; I'm against compulsory forgiveness with no choice."-- Jeanne Safer, a New York psychoanalyst and author of "Must We Forgive?", dissing the majority of advice I've been given on how to deal with my personal pain.
I concluded, a long time ago, the people who give advice to forgive are misguided, insensitive, unthinking assholes who think people are created from cookie-cutters. Or in cults.
But what else is new?